Embarking on the surrogacy journey is a profound decision, and selecting the right surrogate is a pivotal step that can influence the entire experience. At Rite Option, we understand the complexities and uncertainties that intended parents face, and we are here to provide guidance and support throughout this transformative process.
The Surrogacy Dilemma: Choosing Wisely
1. The Initial Dilemma: Agency or Solo Journey?
Choosing between utilizing a surrogacy agency or managing the journey independently is a critical decision. Rite Options surrogacy agency streamlines the process by performing initial screenings and qualifications. This ensures that intended parents are connected with well-vetted surrogates who meet professional wellness criteria, reducing the daunting task of vetting multiple candidates independently.
2. Types of Surrogacy: Deciphering the Options
a. Gestational Surrogacy
In the realm of surrogacy, intended parents generally have two options: gestational surrogacy and traditional surrogacy. Understanding the nuances of each is crucial for making an informed decision.
b. Traditional Surrogacy
A traditional surrogate employs her own eggs or donor eggs, becoming pregnant through intrauterine insemination. This method increases the chances of pregnancy as sperm directly reaches the uterus.
c. Gestational Surrogacy
Gestational surrogacy involves implanting a fertilized embryo into the carrier. The embryo is created in a laboratory using reproductive material from the intended parents, ensuring the child does not share genetics with the surrogate.
3. Tailoring the Choice to Your Situation
Selecting the appropriate surrogacy type depends on various factors, including legal considerations in your jurisdiction and individual health circumstances. For instance, if your state has strict surrogacy laws or if producing a healthy ovum is challenging, gestational surrogacy might be the preferred option.
4. Beyond the Basics: Prioritizing Connection
While the type of surrogacy is a crucial decision, some intended parents prioritize finding the right person over the method. Establishing a connection with the surrogate, ensuring a healthy lifestyle, and fostering rapport with the intended parents are paramount.
The Surrogate Selection Criteria
1. Essential Health Criteria
When choosing a surrogate, certain criteria are non-negotiable. These include passing a background check, having a healthy reproductive history, living in a state with legal surrogacy, and falling within the age range of 21 to 40.
2. Additional Recommendations
In addition to the basics, we recommend that surrogates have a body mass index between 18 to 32, give birth to at least one healthy baby, have no history of alcohol or substance abuse, be a non-smoker not residing with active smokers, and wait six months after giving birth before becoming a surrogate again.
Why the Right Surrogate Matters
Choosing the right surrogate extends beyond the technical aspects of the surrogacy process. It is about building a relationship based on trust, shared values, and a common goal of bringing a child into the world.
1. The Personal Connection
While you have the option to determine the level of involvement with the surrogate, many find that a natural bond forms during the journey. Shared lifestyles and backgrounds contribute to a smoother relationship.
2. Post-Birth Considerations
Post-birth, decisions such as breastfeeding become crucial. Surrogacy contracts often specify whether the surrogate will breastfeed or pump breast milk. These aspects, while seemingly logistical, require clear communication and understanding.
3. The Unspoken “Click” Factor
Despite all criteria being met, sometimes intended parents simply do not “click” with a surrogate candidate. This is a personal aspect of the journey, and it is perfectly acceptable to seek an alternative surrogate.
Conclusion: Crafting Families through Safe Surrogacy Practices
The process of choosing a surrogate is intricate and involves various considerations. At Rite Options, we are dedicated to minimizing risks and ensuring that intended parents are matched with surrogates who align with their needs and expectations.
